WHY WE SHOUT IN ANGER!!

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.

“Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?”

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

“But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.” asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained.

“When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...”

The saint continued, “When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.”

He looked at his disciples and said.

“So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.”

Prepare yourself better for a developer's life!!

Looking for your first position in the software world? Want to know more about developer's life? Improve your chances of getting hired and blend in better? Most cases you just finished your studies. The years you spent in the academy are valuable and helpful in many ways, but don’t necessarily prepare you for a developer's life. Now, this post is not about whether studies are a necessary and sufficient condition for being a good programmer, nor about which university prepares you better, but it is about pointing out what might be overlooked during your study, what can be improved, and how one can have a head start when diving into this exciting world. I present you with 6 essential points that will help you in your upcoming venture:

• Understanding the structure of a software company. Although this can vary form company to company, in most cases there will be a distinction between Developers, QA's/Testers, Support, Product and IT. Understanding this structure earlier ill help a candidate understand the job description he is interviewing for. A new employee will blend in better, adopt business processes faster and utilize all the companies' capabilities.
• Development Methodologies. Whether it's Waterfall or Scrum, Agile or not, understanding the different approaches in Development Methodologies can give you a since of how your life will look like as a programmer. It could even help you choose a better suited company.
• Code Management tools and processes.  
• You can finish your degree with knowing slight to none about code repository tools such as SVN,GIT, etc, which are used extensively. 
• Continuous Build as a quality control process.
• Integration Test as a phase in the development process. 
• Issue tracking systems which is used to handle development process as a whole.
• Coding guidelines. No need to be alarmed if you haven't coded much during your study. However - they say it takes 100 repeats to learn how to bench-press correctly, but if you learn it the wrong way then it takes 10000 to correct yourself. Teach yourself how to write good code from the very start.
• IDE usage.
• IDE's are great - Don't you think? If you haven't mastered one during your studies - that's a shame. They really make life easier and supply easy access to new technologies.
• However, on the downside - if you adopted one too fast - you might be baffled when someone will ask you to run something from the command line or mention the word classpath. Be aware that there is a world outside your IDE.
• Utilizing the power of open source. Let's say you have a great idea for a new project. Most chances are that a large portion of your project's infrastructure is already available as open source. Moreover, choosing the right technology can save you an enormous amount of time. A new developer must understand that open source is a powerful tool that can be leveraged- there is no need to invent the wheel every time.

 As a final note, and from my point of view, the best tip that I can give a starting developer is joining an open source code initiative. This can certainly introduce him to most of the concepts mentioned above, get him a feel of the software world, and make the difference between him and other job seeking developers.

Learning to live without recognition is a skill !

There was a farmer who had a horse and a goat…..

One day, the horse became ill and he called the veterinarian, who said: - Well, your horse has a virus.
He must take this medicine for three days. I’ll come back on the 3rd day and if he’s not better, we’re going to have to put him down.

Nearby, the goat listened closely to their conversation.

The next day, they gave him the medicine and left.

The goat approached the horse and said: - Be strong, my friend.Get up or else they’re going to put you to sleep!

 On the second day, they gave him the medicine and left. The goat came back and said:
- Come on buddy, get up or else you’re going to die! Come on, I’ll help you get up.
Let’s go! One, two, three…

On the third day, they came to give him the medicine and the vet said:
- Unfortunately, we’re going to have to put him down tomorrow. Otherwise, the virus might spread and infect the other horses.

After they left, the goat approached the horse and said:
- Listen pal, it’s now or never! Get up, come on! Have courage! Come on! Get up! Get up!
That’s it, slowly! Great! Come on, one, two, three… Good, good. Now faster, come on…… Fantastic! Run, run more! Yes! Yay! Yes! You did it, you’re a champion!!!

All of a sudden, the owner came back, saw the horse running in the field and began shouting:
- It’s a miracle! My horse is cured. We must have a grand** **party. Let’s kill the goat!!!!
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The Lesson:*

This often happens in the workplace & life in general .
Nobody truly knows which employee or people actually deserves the merit of success & are in fact contributing towards success , or who’s actually contributing the necessary support to make things happen. Be grateful.

Remember………
*LEARNING TO LIVE WITHOUT RECOGNITION IS A SKILL!!!!*
If anyone ever tells you that your work is unprofessional, remember:

Amateurs built the Ark [which saved all the species]

and

professionals built the Titanic [all died tragically]

Murder!!

ஓர் இரவுநேரம்..

ஒருவன் தன் மூன்று வயது மகன் தூங்கிகொண்டிருக்கும் போது தன் மனைவியின் மேலுள்ள கோபத்தில் அவளைக்கொன்று யாருக்கும் தெரியாமல் பிணத்தை புதைத்துவிட்டான்.

மறுநாள் காலை மகன் எழுந்து அம்மாவைப்பற்றி கேட்டால் என்ன சொல்லி சமாளிப்பதென்று ஆலோசனை செய்தான்.

ஆனால் மகன் அம்மாவைப்பற்றி கேட்கவில்லை.

இரண்டாம் நாளாவது கேட்பானென்று நினைத்தான், ஆனாலும் கேட்கவில்லை.

வழக்கம்போல மகன் சந்தோசமாவே இருந்தான்.

இவனுக்கு குழப்பம் அதிகரிக்க.., மூன்றாம் நாள் மெதுவாக மகனிடம் பேச்சுக்கொடுத்தான்.

"உனக்கு நம்ம வீட்ல ஏதாவது மாற்றம் தெரியுதா..? எங்கிட்ட ஏதாவது கேக்கணும் போல இருந்தா கேளு "

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"மூணுநாளா அம்மா ஏன் உங்க பின்னாடியே நிக்கிறங்கப்பா ?"

Why people are unhappy in their relationship !!!

      Because it was rushed…

People often feel the need to be in a relationship, especially after their previous relationship end. Usually they feel the need to find a replacement as soon as possible to show their ex they can move on. That in many cases leads to them rushing themselves into a new relationship they’re not ready for or not ready to build.

    Because you’re not happy with yourself

If you can’t be happy single you won’t be happy in a relationship. Happiness can’t be found in someone else, it has to be from within.

      Because you’re in it for the wrong reasons

Sometimes people enter relationships for all the wrong reasons without knowing it. Some do it for money, some to escape loneliness, to fulfill their idea of love, for sex and many more wrong reasons.

    Because of fear…

Some people are in relationships that are stealing them of satisfaction but won’t get out because they are afraid of the outcome after that. Although ending the relationship might be the best decision for them, some have settled for what they have and refuse to make any changes for the better.